How to avoid a bad ceremony

Rules for both Weddings and Funerals…
Lori Davis – yes, I am a BasketCase

When was the last time you saw Uncle James or Cousin Bob Hatfield? Chances are it was probably a wedding or a funeral—for these are the only time people put aside personal triumphs and trials to publicly acknowledge life and death.

After attending a wedding or funeral, a person may pledge to value life more in the future, but once the ceremony ends and Life returns the blinders to his eyes, seventeen months or nine years will pass in a blink, and then one day he will be in a room with the same group, all slightly older and heavier, mutually wondering where the time has gone.

This is not a banal attempt to motivate people to take life more seriously. Rather it is my recommendation to accept that just as everyone has an annoying drunk uncle, weddings and funerals will be the only time you see certain people for the rest of your life. THANK GOD!

As with other fundamental laws of the universe, do not fight that which will not change. Learn to use the law to better position and strengthen yourself.

So as per my vast experince and worldy advice? Follow these eight rules for weddings and funerals to avoid them becoming the ritualistic ceremonies they are NOT intended to be.

BasketCase Rules for Weddings and Funerals (and all others in between)

1. Clothes in your closet do not change; fashions and waistlines do. If the business casual society in which we live has decreased the frequency of the times you don that dark suit or black dress to the point a moving truck shows up more often than you wear the outfit, try it on from time to time. And, if it doesn’t fit, have it altered. Don’t run the risk of your ass exploding out of your pants or your newly emerging fat roll introduce itself to the family when you bend over to pick up your nephew. And ladies? No nip shows, wear panties and shave!!!

2. Ensure the presence of a social lubricant. Although this seems obvious, there are people who attempt to have dry events. Alcohol is on this earth because of family functions. If more than your immediate family is gathering, alcohol should always be present. While it may create a whole new set of problems, the problems are more entertaining than trying to bridge the awkwardness over orange Fanta. If you do not have a say in the decision, save yourself. Dig out the flask you got as a gift for standing up in your college roommate’s wedding and fill it with the strongest liquor you can tolerate. Don’t forget to pack the rest of the bottle with a case of beer in a cooler for the car. Once others realize you have alcohol, you will be the most popular person at the event.

3. Only take a date if you love the person. While it may be more tolerable to deflect or diffuse familial interaction by using a human shield, leave casual dates at home. Why subject another person to the people you avoid throughout the year unless that person is bound to you by love? Besides, weddings and funerals are great places to meet people. The grief, the joy, and Rule #2 can work to your advantage. One caveat to this is rule is if in clear conscience you can say that you are willing to go to your guest’s next family event, bring the person along, but beware of his or her motives. If you don’t want to be there, why should he or she?

4. Bring the kids along; leave the pets at home. Although the event may coincide with your date night, unless it is declared a “no kids” event, bring them along. They deserve to learn as early as possible about the weird family into which they were born. On the contrary, even though the dog may be considered a member of your immediate family; he may be better behaved than any of the kids at the event; and it wasn’t explicitly stated not to bring him, leave him at home or at the sitter. If you’re trying to make a statement about the new family unit of the millennium, see Rule #6.

5. Treat your cell phone like a cigarette: step outside to smoke; step outside to talk. This rule applies to all mobile media devices and all public places. I wouldn’t even mention it except for the repeated transgressions. Although it may be more enticing to text the person you met last Friday or catch up on work e-mail, keep the phone in your pocket. You’ll only draw more attention to yourself and attract the people who everyone else is avoiding. In addition regardless of how cool you think you look with your Game of Thrones ringtone? (I have this ringtone fyi) TURN THE VOLUME DOWN!!!

6. Do not use the event as your platform. There’s still two hours to go and you’ve run out of small talk. The temptation is to dive into some current events but stick to the how nice the flowers look and how tasty the food is (lying is permissible). If you’re exchanging superficial conversation, you’re still too deep. Think stratosphere; think ozone. Read a People magazine prior to attending. You’ll have plenty of trifling ammunition. Remember, no one cares what you think, just as you’re not interested in their theories about where the weapons of mass discussion really are. But beware of discussing the Kardashians!

This also covers Toasts. Keep it to a ste time… do not make it about all you. And if you have a stutter problem? Read from cue cards…

7. Regardless how good relatives look, only compliment them once on their physical appearance (more than that is creepy). We all have that hot relative that just looks better and better each time we see him or her. Sure the person may only be related through marriage or be a distant cousin, but they are off the list. It’s acceptable to compliment or offer a consolatory or congratulatory hug ONCE. Any more than that and people will start referring to you as Jerry Lee. This is also where Rule #2 may backfire on you. What seems like a good idea after five shots of Tequila may make you the subject of conversation for many events to come.

8. If you can’t afford a gift or even a card? DON’T ATTEND!!!!

Doesn’t mean you have to shell out mega bucks but weddings aren’t cheap folks and if you can afford to get that new tacky too tight hooker dress then you can afford to stop by CVS or Walgreens and get a damn card! Splurge for maybe an Olive Garden Gift Card? Hell a shell gas card even? B for effort people!

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